Matchmaking, Concept and Is It True?

When we hear the word soul mate, we may immediately imagine a mysterious figure that is hard to find, but when we meet, we immediately fall in love and live happily ever after. Is mate really like that and true?

The concept/definition of soulmate

Matchmaking is a concept related to the belief that every human being is destined to unite with the right life partner, which has been determined by God or fate. This concept is closely related to marriage, where a spouse who is considered a soul mate must live together, build a household, and have children. Traditionally, soul mate is often associated with spiritual or metaphysical aspects, so it is often associated with luck, fate, or karma. However, the concept of soul mate can also be viewed from a psychological perspective, namely through the selection of a life partner based on certain criteria such as similar values, interests, and goals in life. Although many people still believe in the concept of soul mate, there are those who doubt its existence. Some people prefer to find the right life partner through a rational and realistic search process, rather than waiting for fate or a miracle to bring them together with a predetermined mate.

Is mate real?

Although it sounds cliche, the concept of soul mate as we know it today is actually not a common thing from the past. Hundreds of years ago, marriage was not always done because they felt they had found true love, but also as a survival strategy. The family became the main pillar for people to work and expand political influence, to share the produce of land and livestock, and to confiscate power from other families. However, where did the concept of being matched with true love come from? We can trace it to Europe, where poets, artists and philosophers began to fight for the right to personal happiness, including the right to marry someone they really liked. At the same time, the world was entering the era of the industrial revolution, in which farmers and ranchers turned to cities to work in factories, and the culture of having more children to take care of the land began to fade. Hence, marriage gradually became more focused on love as we know it today. So, what exactly is the definition of a mate? Of course, everyone has a different definition, but we often interpret it as a partner who can play multiple roles, being a friend, best friend, career mentor, driver, chef, financial manager, and so on. Someone who is like this is often seen as a perfect partner and there is an assumption that if they have flaws, maybe they are not meant to be. Remember, we must be aware that deficiencies are natural and the search for true, perfect love can actually destroy love itself.

How do we know that we have found our soul mate?

Everyone would want to find a soul mate or life partner that is right for them. However, how do we know that we have found our soul mate? Here are some signs that might indicate that someone has found their soul mate:

1. 1. There is a sense of comfort and peace when together

When with our soul mate, we feel comfortable and peaceful. There’s no need to force yourself to be a different person or try too hard to please your partner. We can be ourselves without fear of being judged or judged.

2. 2. Understanding each other

Our soul mate understands us well and vice versa. We can feel open and safe to share anything with our partner, including things that might be difficult to talk about with others.

3. 3. Mutual respect

When we find our soul mate, we respect each other. There is no feeling of inferiority or feeling better than your partner. We respect each other’s differences and accept each other with all the strengths and weaknesses that exist.

4. 4. Mutual support

Our soul mate is someone who always supports us in everything. When we needed support, he was always there for us and provided the needed support. Vice versa, we also always provide support to our partners.

5. 5. Motivate each other

When we find our soul mate, we also become each other’s motivation. We push each other to be better in life and achieve the desired goals.

6. 6. Each has the same vision for the future

Our soul mate has the same vision with us for the future. We have similar plans for how our lives will be lived and what goals we want to achieve together. By knowing the signs above, we can be more sure that we have found our soul mate. Remember that every relationship has challenges and hard work that must be done together so that the relationship remains happy and lasting.

Closing

Maybe all this time we believe that acid and salt must meet. However, many feel sad because the real love story is not that beautiful. We must realize that love does not have to be perfect to live happily. As always, thanks for reading. Feel free to write down your questions in the comments column below.